Good day! As a Reverend, interfaith, nondenominational, and eclectic,I aspire to speak a couple's Beliefs and Traditions and Religions .. attempting to speak their Hearts in ways they wish to communicate with Spirit and their Congregation. Symbols, Saints, Angels that fit the Celebrants' beliefs vary from one Ceremony to another, all in an Effort to portray strength, unity, clarity and empowered Voices to the Passage being Celebrated.
Wholism is a MindBodySpirit issue. So what has that got to do with Marriage?
In my work, it means a lot! I create custom Ceremonies, whether for marriage or other Life Passages. Even my simple, basic Ceremonies have been carefully thought out and orchestrated with the intention of inspiring ongoing Goodness, Support and Li, or Intention to be built on, in a couple's or family's lives. I say lives...but it is also A LIFE. One Life shared by two and/or many. What I most want for every couple is Communication Skills...Knowledge of one's own Values and Boundaries...a Willingness to be Wrong. How afraid are you to be “Wrong?” Can you expect your Mate to be willing to be Wrong if you despise that state yourself...if you refuse to “look at” yourself?
Being Willing doesn't mean you ARE wrong...it means that you are willing to look at your own part in the problem, and correct what you can in YOU. I encourage all people to reach deep into their awarenesses and bring out the best version of the best they can be, use that as a Li, a Notion...Intent! As an example, early in my life my Mother, who read constantly, explained that my Name is that of the Greek Goddess of Peace. I took that to Heart...I always thought about being peaceful, and I have such a wonderful Example to follow!
I suggest learning all you can about yourself while growing up, then take a chance on choosing a compatible mate that can continue to assist that harmonious state, and you theirs. Be Co-Creators... If you are already in a committed relationship, apply these principles to enhance what you now have.
Remember! Life is an Ocean, LOVE is a Boat! Build a strong, secure vessel together, agree on the color of paint and name for your craft. Each of you has strengths … coordinate your efforts to guide your boat to every shore you aim for. Keep each other safe and dry!
Beware of Mutiny; that sly stealthy cloud that appears out of nowhere~~a storm squalling, blowing, rocking and tipping your Craft in raging waters and monstrous waves.
Prepare to be Lifesavers to each other.
I've been told by friends from India that a man treats his wife like the Goddess...and the wife treats her husband like she would a God. Even guests that come in to their home are considered as though God and Goddess have just entered, and I have had the sweet experience of receiving that attitude. Like a Toros, such attitudes and actions flow back and through and in again to nourish again and again.
I always talk about how Words are Food, and also that there are Foods of Impressions. These are subtle awarenesses you can cultivate...What you hear, think, speak ; what you see...are Food. They create and feed your cells. (Candace Pert says it so well.) Be aware that you are always feeding yourself and your Mate with nourishment...or doses of poison.
It's my wish to send out the Seeds of Wholism; to inspire young people and those of any age...approach Love by Approaching YourSelf first. Love yourself … for the Higher Qualities you are...and you will attract one who does the same, by virtue of how and where you travel, and choose to visit, and the rate of vibration you are emitting. I'm not inferring that you will draw to you the perfect fairytale mate....though you may~~but what is Perfect anyway? If you are Perfect for each other...then you have found the Perfect Partner!
When we vibrate at a certain rate, we attract others and situations that fit the same vibration...when I treat my Mate with compassion, respect, fun, lovingness...it comes back. This is and energetic LAW, Folks!! It COMES back!!! I've proven this to myself over and over, and in various situations...try it one morning while you prepare to leave your house...if a Toll will have to be driven through; send a big smile to the Toll Taker. Notice if you don't get a smile when you go through, a 'hello,' or a nod...
So okay, this practice it may not return ten thousandfold right off the bat, but certainly the atmosphere of friendliness, comfort and affection increases when more is released into the environment, wouldn't you say? WE are vibratory beings, and we pick up vibrations of love, mistrust, anger and more...the trick is to learn awareness...to monitor oneself...Each of you tending to your own attitudes and emotions helps to bring your BEST Self to your Mate and to the your Union.
Build a strong boat! Have the courage to set out Together...TWO Captains...who are comfortable enough with Self and Mate to play Second Mate when it serves your common Cause.
After the Courting is over...is there a shift or change in the manner you approach each other? Do you continue to exhibit the Grace and Poise..and Coyness that you did when dating? Those little jestures or words; little snugglies....are they as frequent as before, or once a Commitment had been made...did things change slightly...or a lot? Are you feeling fear? Many times a person will realize something's not right...yet, they feel they have invested so much, or … that their partner will change, and tow their line …
I wish you Courage to step up for yourself, to question...to have dialogue; to adjust and test new ways...and I wish enough Self Esteem and Compassion for you and your Partner to walk away if you realize there has been a mistake.
When one door closes, many windows open! Take it slow...look out each window; find the Sunny one, the Breezy one...what do you like about them? Do they sometimes get uncomfortable? What then? Explore all that before you open a new Door!
Harmony takes work! We need to put the right notes and tones together; to sing on key, so it becomes a melody. Then, we add the carefully chosen words to make an uplifting, Top 40s song!! If the words or the melody are discordant, the song will be sad, unhappy, cacophony...and set you off balance. I wish the right Partner for everyone of you! I wish you courage to leave the situation if things continue to be discordant...and that you may open to new experience..and probable success.
If your relationship has been problematic to the point of a breakup, take some time for and with yourself. Partner your Self before you seek out a “Second Half.” Bring a WHOLE Person to the Table, and you will both row your boat straight and strong through any riptide!
When we are whole we are never alone...We are able to see and feel our Spirit and Creator's Spirit and Love.
It would be nice if the sweetness stayed on easily...however, by virtue of entering a New Paradigm...a combined “Life, “ or “Coupledom,”. There is NO way that two or more people living together is ANYthing at ALL like living with one's parents or living alone. How do you each tolerate the situations you WILL face, and the reactions you each will have?? Are you ready to be Supportive, to learn new things, sometimes to step aside...are you able to accept your Partner's Help and to give yours?
WHAT are your Boundaries for your Root Family in regards to yourself, your home and Mate and Children? What if any demands will you allow them to put on you, now that you have a Spouse or Partner? Identify your Boundaries that exist in regard to your Mate, as well. Yes, I say you have some. There must be boundaries if one is to Know where they stand and for what. The goal is to form a relationship of Standing Together...and it takes Work to achieve it.
When a marriage or any Partnership is based on mutual respect, actual partnership and equality, it will be a solid "institution!" However to be a solid “Heaven,” it needs Compatability. COMPATABILITY. How much do you have in Common? How much do the Differences Matter?
What will you do together for entertainment? Are you on the Same Wavelength as to Humor, and of how many Kids you want, and how to raise your Children? Do you agree? How much sleep do you need? How late do you go to bed and arise? Are you Compatable? If not...how much are you willing to Compromise?? Compromise, I think, is crucial to Communication, however there has to be powerful meeting places...Unity in many areas. What do you want? Can you decide to adjust so you get mostly what you want and your Mate gets what s/he mostly wants...sometimes one needs to insure there is only one Choir talking in one's head...the din...is deafening already from one Paradigm from one whining voice spouting its own rheumanations!
The FIVE C's:
Compromise, Commitment, Compassion, Compatability, Consideration … they CREATE Productive Communication!
How serious are you about Committing to everything that will be part of the Life Each of you Wants... and how will you Provide that for yourselves and your children if you have then?
The best time to ask yourself the tough questions is before committing. Honesty to Self...Honesty to the Beloved. Honesty is a great gift that Simplifies Life and allows for far greater time in Enjoyment and Achievement and can build a rock solid relationship.
Then there comes a time when off the Tribe goes...off to school, a playdate, off to High School, College...into a job, or military. Now the Paradigm slides into its next Change. You are two people again. If you are able to be compatible, this is the perfect time to explore, grow and discover more together...to help each other grow into even higher Vibration...to enjoy your Family in a new way...to bring to your Grandchildren benefits of all you've learned that might not have been available to your Awareness when you had your own Children at home.
I am picking apart this reality so we can take a close look at what's going on. Too many people have raced off into Matrimony or living together only to become disenchanted when they realize their boundaries get crossed and they don't know what to do. If one is inauthentic, unwilling to assert for oneself...defensiveness can sprout and grow into resentment and off we go.
Think of how many more joyful couples and children can walk this Earth when we take ourselves and the act of Partnering seriously enough to build careful foundations of honoring Life, Self and each other!
What am I asking you to do? Get to know yourselves...encourage your children to become self-assured, confident, with high self-esteem tempered with compassion.
Get to know your VALUES and Boundaries. Evaluate. RE-valuate. Teach your children to to this!
Get to know the person you're attracted to and observe how you work and play together...how loving, kind and sincere does the relationship feel?
We have some choice these days to get to know our Hearthrob well before making commitments. If we first understand ourselves and what we want, we always make better choices. I say, bottom line, know what you like, what Boundaries you have, what you expect, and what your Mate expects and will tolerate. Must there be toleration? Yes, and always within some scope of Reason...Be it harm None...in All Things!! I am not suggesting someone stay in a stressful, life-draining situation. I suggest that every person deserves to live happily and abundantly...happiness begets abundance.
Build your Boat carefully right from the start, with the best wood, with hand-hewn Pegs that will swell with the tides and keep your vessel tight,waterproof....and afloat for the duration of your Journey!!
I wish for you the most wonderful Relationships and Unions!
As a Reverend, I feel very responsible for the joining of two people. I want to feel and be Successful! Your Success is MY success!!
I send you Love, White Light, Angel Wings All Around!
With Love to you, I am Reverend Irene Windhorse at your service for Ceremony, Spiritual Council, private and group Meditations, and Energy Healing. If I can help in any way, it is my Privilege and Honor.
Choose through the Wisdom of your Heart, Abode of Spiritmind.
With Love to You, Reverend Irene Windhorse
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Irene Windhorse ~ Transformational Spiritual Services ~ With Reverence for All Life
